Psychology of TRUE LOVE and the Path to Find Soul Mate for a Life Time

// October 26th, 2010 // Psychology, T-Shirt and Clothes tips

An Article Dedicated for a Very Special Person in my Life, with all my Love and Respect!

First of all, to find a life time soul/love mate is one of the toughest realizations in a human’s life! So be ready for tests and disappointments, and forget that you could get it just like this by blinking with your eyes, saying something smart or looking attractive! There comes a moment and you definitely understand for yourself that this is what you really want – a true and one companion in your life forever in everything you could do together – love, obligations, entertainment, family life, travel, development, suffering, support, advice, growth, passion, relaxation etc. Only a complete devotion could lead you in the right direction. You might come to such decision after not being happy how you wanted it to be, after several tries of failed romances, or because of your clear principles, which is something very rare nowadays but still happening. Otherwise, if having tens of relationships of different duration, quality and guaranteed break ups – is something that suits you best in your life, than you could just bother from curiosity and read further what other people can chose to do in their life.

Yes, the excessive diversity of “flavors” give you lots of impressions, experiences but their inferior and often illusory nature leaves you empty and alone, again and again. And how long or can you always be satisfied only with the “flavors”?

A veritable wine can be served only in a special wine glass and its taste remains with you forever only if consolidated with a true feeling, a true kiss …

We dream of somebody who would make us happy and vice versa, somebody who would be maximum matching to our personality and this leads to creation of a desirable character in our minds.

Besides our parents that give us the grounds of understanding, we meet and get to know people both by their exterior and interior, their actions and appearance, perceive different knowledge, impressions, events and feelings. All these form in our minds and our hearts prototypes of life behaviors, which determine us to like or dislike, approve or disapprove, admire or reject etc, and all these are about people around us. That’s why we like some people and reach for them and try to avoid others. These basic prototypes are our individual principles and morality, and they are the basic link in a lasting relationship, because these principles must definitely coincide with the other person’s when founding a couple.

You might feel that you’re attracted to a person that has some opposite, inappropriate or dangerous features but it will never mean that you’ll be comfortable with this person, you’ll be in love with him\her and be happy in a longer term – no, you’re just attracted because everything that’s unknown and challenging attracts us, until we try it. So, it doesn’t mean you should get into romance with him/her because of that, you could be friends or just an acquaintance … or just somebody that passes by and you could still receive valuable experience.

You can combine ice-cream with chocolate or ice-cream with strawberry but you don’t mix ice-cream with ketchup, although you like it in general and because ketchup is good with something else. The only thing you can do is try to mix the unsuitable just to see how it is but you’ll always like and repeatedly prefer the perfect combinations, the matching elements because in fact this is what makes us feel satisfied and all-sufficient.

A paradox, but only a perfect match, someone exterior matching in the best way to you can make you feel complete! Both partners should be different and that’s how ice-cream and strawberry are – different, but they harmonize perfectly! They are on a global scale interchange and equilibrium.

How can you know that a person can be right for you? Of course, the answer is – only by getting to know each other very deeply, enough as to make the most important conclusions about him/her and whether to go further already into a beautiful love relationship or stop at being just friends. Otherwise how can you fall in love with somebody for true if his/her personality doesn’t inspire you, doesn’t bring you joy and approval of your heart and mind – you can’t. It should be someone you consider and feel to be good, amazing, interesting, appealing to you soundly, because in determination/definition of true love always should be considered inner qualities first and then plus exterior in an ensemble, although first are your eyes and senses that observe the person …

What about love at first sight? Or how can you know this from just one sight? – You can’t and this is the answer! Time, time and again – time together with common experience! You can like or feel attraction to someone but that’s it, all positive emotions you feel in that very moment are only presumable and can be confirmed or not while learning each other in time. And if everything goes just great between you two, you start to think that it was love from first sight, which in fact wasn’t but because of the positive evolution became to be analyzed so. And you like the feeling of thinking that you were right by your intuition and sometimes it is exactly like this.

Being ready and wanting a lasting relationship with a life time love mate is a deliberate, serious and responsible decision and it takes at least a moulded individuality, with understanding of inner aspirations and principles in life and consequently certain expectations from this relationship and from future couple. So, logically it is an adult perception of the subject besides romantic emotions. Becoming an adult in this sense comprises different ages but rather elder than younger.

By thinking and forming in your mind a desirable love matching character you indirectly influence the world around you and create circumstances to meet this person and to be matched. The more you sincerely believe, and like I said earlier are fully devoted, the bigger are your chances in it. You created the intuition and it led you to the right direction, it led you to notice and to meet someone really important.

So, only by learning about each other you can become sure whether you found the perfect love partner or not. And time is inevitable here, months and may be years, and all life situations you live together or share are good to show and to reveal what’s inside of a person.

And frankness should be your strategy! Only in this way you can get the necessary impression and understanding, a realistic picture of that person. Sometimes it’s hard to be open, but in spite of this you should aim to attain sincerity in your relationship and therefore trust. And that is the right way in the process if making decisions.

Don’t try to be someone you’re not, someone else, try to be you, be open and find a love match that will love you for what you are!

By the way, did you know that a lot of bird species like: peregrine falcon, some kinds of parrots, swans, kiwis, European nuthatches, ember-geese, swallows, swifts, gray geese, ravens, cranes, storks, some penguins etc – are forming couples for life!

And according to Chinese customs and Feng Shui – Mandarin Duck is a symbol of matrimonial fidelity. And these birds just look fantastic!

We should reach only for something and somebody that would do good to us. And this good is that basic link between the love mates which coincides in the mind and heart of both partners, this makes the connection to be strong and indestructible, helpful and efficient all the time in their mutual contacting and when contacting with the world.

And I should mention that being together a strong couple going through life also supposes self perfection from both partners, because, naturally it will be a development in different directions and senses, so both partners should be flexible to become better.